Taking Things in Stride

I’d like to take a minute and discuss your soul.

If you’re going to be in the entertainment industry, you have GOT to keep a clear mind. You can’t take things personally – it just won’t work that way.

Trust me – there are people who love all sorts of different kinds of men and women. Young, old, fat, thin, tall, short – in fact, even if you’re really unattractive, there probably is a segment of the population that would be interested in seeing you. It’s the nature of human curiosity, and especially with the advent of reality TV, it’s become fairly obvious that people will pay to be entertained, no matter what the content – ESPECIALLY if that content is unique or hard to find.

The thing that is most important at all times is to be a duck. What I mean by that is that things MUST roll off of your back. When you’re told that you’re too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, or just not what they’re looking for – you have to let it go. LET IT GO. It’s not you – it’s just that they don’t have a product that they are trying to sell that you would fit into. That’s totally ok. If they aren’t interested, then there is going to be someone somewhere that is going to want to see you doing your thing. MOVE ON.

Dwelling in it comes with its own pitfalls. You can become depressed (bad for acting), decide to take drugs or alcohol to feel better (bad for acting), become angry (bad for acting), become really really bitchy (REALLY bad for acting)…you get my point. It is always going to be better for your career if you present yourself as someone who is able to roll with the punches. Presentation is also key, and we will be discussing that in detail in a minute.

Remember, laughter is not only a great lubricant (seriously, it is) for all of the rough patches in life and business, but it is also contagious. When someone tries to mess with you, tries to cut you down, tries to tell you that you’re not worth something – LAUGH IT OFF. It is important to remember that. You can always go and take out your aggressions elsewhere, like at a gym. But as far as your public persona is concerned, you MUST be your own PR representative – and that’s even if you have a publicist. Don’t let it get to you.

Laugh at angry people. It disarms them because they don’t know what you’re thinking, and worse, it’ll bother them that they couldn’t break you down. Be better than them.

If that doesn’t work, take a break. Go and watch a movie, TV, a book – anything that is funny.

Remember – smart, confident people are sexy, and smart, confident people don’t care what other people think. Deal with tangible things, not emotions, and you’ll be successful.